The Seven Principles for making marriage work


by John Gottman, PH.D. and Nan Silver

With over a million copies sold worldwide, The Seven Principles  for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair and strengthen relationships. Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of 40 years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make-and break-a relationship. The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work is the culminatiuon of that work.


The Gottman 7 Principles Couples Program

Since the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work book was published, The Gottman Institute has received many requests from community leaders who do relationship work for assistance in understanding and implementing its relationship strengthening skills. Couples often wait an average of six years from the time they identify problems in their relationship until they seek help (Notarius & Buongiorno, 1992). By then, problems deepen and the task of recovery becomes much greater. By providing the 7 Principles Couples Program, based on the latest research about what makes marriage succeed and what contributes to relationship failure, we hope to encourage couples to get help sooner in an effort to avoid the mental and physical distress of a declining relationship.

The 7 Principles Couples Program Goals

The aim of the 7 Principles Couples Program is to provide you and your partner with practical tools to enhance and improve your relationship while understanding  the research-based foundation from which the tools are derived.

This program does not provide psychotherapy nor is it intended to take the place of marital/couples therapy, but it does provide practical skills in a psycho-educational format that can help you and your partner strengthen your relationship.

The main goal of this program is to help you and your partner strengthen your relationship in a variety of ways including: deepening your love maps, fostering fondness and admiration for one another, turn toward instead of away from each other, accept influence from each other, solve your solvable problems, avoid getting stuck on problems and stop existing in your relationship and move toward creating shared meaning. 


We know making this type of financial investment and commitment is scary. We also understand that there are probably a number of thoughts going on through your mind making you want to leave this site and keep looking. We encourage you to TAKE ACTION! If you have questions about our program just click on the HOME tab and scroll down to the bottom of the page  and ask. If nothing else, you owe it to your relationship and yourself to atleast get the book and check it out for yourself. Life is too short to just hope and wish your relationship will get better or that your marriage will be different. Make sure your relationship gets better and your marriage is different. See you in session!